Ever since I started showing people felt the need to chip in on my life. It was like my pregnancy gave them permission to give unsolicited and often negative advice, even in public settings. I understand that people mean well most of the time, but little room is allowed to be the mom you choose to be.
I remember walking in the mall and a woman came up to me and asked “You aren’t planning to breastfeed, are you? Breastfeeding ruined my daughter’s breasts”, I just smiled and continued shopping. I didn’t feel like I should tell a stranger what choice I was going to make, because it wouldn’t impact her life in any way whatsoever. Another woman said “Oh! You’re too young to have a baby!” out loud while I was at the fish and chips shop. I said, “Yes I am young, but I’m capable”, what did it matter to her? She wouldn’t have to help me raise my son or help me pay my bills at the end of the month.
It doesn’t matter what people think. You are the mother. You make the decisions. You know your child and what your child needs. Breast or bottle – at least the child gets fed. Co-sleep or Crib – you decide! At least both of you are getting some sleep. Home school or play school – either way, you know best.
Be true to yourself and raise your child the way you wish. You are a great mom and you are doing your best. Don’t let anyone try and take that from you.
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Love and Blessings,