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Stretch Marks

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In my pre-pregnancy vanity I was convinced that stretch marks were the ugliest thing that could ever happen to a woman. My mother would often brag that she didn’t have any stretch marks at all; neither did my gran so the stakes were extremely high. The months went by and I didn’t have any stretchmarks, but I battled to increase weight during the second trimester due to Hyperemisis Gravidarum. With the help of medication I was able to gain 15 Kgs (33 lbs) in the last two and a half months before delivery. This sudden weight gain led to many red and purple stretch marks all over my stomach, back and thighs. I didn’t think they were beautiful in any way.

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I felt so self-conscious about my new stretch marks. I didn’t want anyone to see me like ‘that’ (Not even Mr). I hated the way they looked, the way they felt and how they made me feel. I would complain about them endlessly to Mr. I would ask him HOW could he love me like THIS?

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Then he said “I love your stretch marks, because they show that you’ve done the work to bring a baby into the world. I am proud of your stretch marks and you should be too”. That’s when my mind set shifted from self-loathing to self-love. These stretch marks symbolised a rite of passage. They are a constant reminder of my bravery and how far I’ve come as a woman and a mother.

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Do you have stretch marks after pregnancy? How do you feel about them? Let me know by commenting below.

 

I’d love to hear from you!

 

Love and Blessings,

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28 thoughts on “Stretch Marks

  1. A burgandy and silvered map of life covers my lower back and bottom. Three wonderful human beings passed through my body, once many moons ago i was sad at my faded beauty, but it is only skin deep and my children I also get to keep.

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  2. I have them on my really lower abdomen. But what makes me most self conscious is my 2 c-section scars. Quite like you I didn’t want Mr to see me w/o clothing either. But I’ve finally come around to accepting them. Without them I might not have my babies.

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  3. aww beautiful story, i’ve never been pregnant, but some people do have stretch marks even before, my friends do and i admit that i think they are ugly, i don’t have, probably a few invisible on my butt, its not only stretch marks i worry about i just worry that it will never feel like my body again but i desperately want to be a mom in the future, at times i look at my mom her belly is fat and she has a nasty c section scar, now that i think about it i should remember she had that to bring me into this world! and love her and remind her she is strong and beautiful!

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  4. I’ve got cesarean scars from the two cesars that I had to have to bring both my babies into this world. The first was an emergency op after 27 hours in labor. They were difficult births and I have the scars to always remember them by but I wouldn’t change them for anything in the world. A legacy of giving birth to my beautiful children.

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  5. When I fell pregnant, my mom told me to bath in olive oil and afterwards rub my tummy area with olive oil, throughout my pregnancy. Often I was an oily mess, but I listened and I do not know if I was just fortunate or if the old wives tale worked, but I didn’t get any stretch marks!

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    1. I used olive oil instead of nipple cream and it worked really well. I tried cocoa butter, but I later realized that I had an allergy after having a rash all over my stomach. I wish I tried olive oil. Maybe next time…

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  6. I use bio oil for my stretch marks but I do hate them. My children are now 28,25,23 and 17,I have learned to live with them lol. My husband feels I am beautiful just the way I am and it is a part of pregnancy for most women. But I will say that the bio oil does work for appearance.

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