One night I was typing away rapidly in the spare room of our home, the door was shut and the rest of the family were inside. It was many hours after the Little One had been put to bed and the only time that I get to complete any work. It must have been around 12AM and Mr was getting ready to turn in for the night. He knocked on the door, but I didn’t hear him because I had my headphones on with loud music blasting in my ears (it’s the way I work and the best way for me to get anything done, including cleaning). Mr burst in, looked at me and said:
“You don’t love me, you love WordPress” he uttered (along with other things that I can’t remember right now) in passing. I know Mr meant this as a joke, but I felt a tinge of truth in his voice. Was I spending too much time blogging and too little time with him?
This affected me to the point where I started cutting down on blogging and reading time to spend more time with the family. This is great, but I’m also feeling like I need some me time and blogging is that time where I get to express my thoughts.
Mr has been a technology widower before, once to Pinterest and Amazon’s Kindle Direct Publishing so this is not new to him. It’s a bit different for me because he has a job where he can go to the office and complete all his tasks there before coming home and having free time. I appreciate his role in the family and all the sacrifices he makes for us daily, but I’m just a mom trying to pursue my dreams too.
So now I’m seeking balance. I listen more closely to my family, spend real quality time with them, laugh and cry with them while carving out some time to do the things I love (and the things that keep me sane). I can’t say that I’m completely successful at achieving the balance yet, because it’s 1.30 AM here and I’m still typing away on my laptop. I hope to find a formula that works for me and my family. Maybe planning ahead is in order?
Is your husband/ wife/partner a WordPress widow/er? How do you strike a balance with blogging and work/family/home? Do you have any tips for me? Let me know by commenting below!