I decided to get as involved as possible in my stepdaughter’s life early on in our relationship. I met her when she was just about to start Grade R, which is the grade before first grade here in South Africa. I knew that this was one of the best and easiest ways to cement a relationship with Madam.
We started learning the ABCs together, and then I taught her how to read, spell and write in cursive. It was a magical time for both of us and it took some of the pressure off her parents as they work full time.
As soon as she signed up for extra-murals at school all of us attended as many of her recitals and matches as possible. I enjoyed many ballet open days and Saturday morning recitals. I was there when she scored her first goal in netball and played her first guitar tune at the school’s Cultural Evening. Mr and I attended late night choir eisteddfods and school fetes. I helped her with her homework in the afternoon while her parents were working and all this made us closer.
This may seem like I’ve overstepped my ‘boundaries’ as a stepmom, but Mr believes there are no boundaries. He always reminds me that I can be exactly the mother I want to be and I set the tone for my relationship with my stepdaughter.
Where she sees and receives love, she will give love. This journey wasn’t easy and there were many wobbles along the way, but the older my stepdaughter gets the more she knows that I will always be there for her to support her in everything that she does.
Let’s show our stepchildren that we care this week by really getting involved in something that they enjoy or do something together.
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Love and Blessings,